Not only do I see many couples in pain in my family law practice, I observe the same in my role as mediator. This week was no different as I assisted an already divorced couple modify their settlement agreement. And although it was excruciatingly difficult, it was tremendously rewarding. What I noticed was that one of the parties was combatant until the end even though an agreement was being formulated to alleviate some of the co-parenting struggles that existed.
This is a prime example of why the Collaborative Process works for any family law situation. Lets rewind to their original divorce proceeding years ago. With the team of financial and mental health professionals along with their Collaboratively trained attorneys, this couple would have resolved their divorce issues gentler and more peacefully. This would have changed their current conflict two ways; one they would have been more satisfied with the final agreement since they were the ones who crafted it and two, that being said, the chances of a need for modification would have been reduced. This couple may not have needed to change anything. Their emotional makeup, instead of hostile, angry and combative would have been kinder, more agreeable. This is because the Collaborative process allows the neutral mental health professional to assist in the healing that needs to take place during a divorce. The couple would have reemerged from what is generally a stressful event in ones life with a new attitude, feeling good from their head to their shoes, a sense of knowing where to go and what to do.
Attached is a video explaining how Collaborative process leads the way to a kinder and gentler divorce. In-Joy the theme appropriate song and lyrics accompaniment!
This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce!