Most of practicing family law is working with couples who have already decided to divorce or at least one of them has. Its working through the process until there is a resolution either by the couples themselves or by the court. The system is not set up to help people who are not sure if they want to divorce which of course sets them up afterwards with whether they want to remarry. Marriage and divorce are two of the most complicated and emotional changes one will go through in their life. As a mediator and collaborative professional I am sensitive to this fact of life and help guide my clients through this maze.
There is a great article attached from a successful writer who is twice divorced. Although her first divorces was amicable, she still struggled the second time around. Its a blunt but honest assessment of marriage and divorce that is worth reading. I’m not sure if it will help one stay married or cope better after divorce but it does highlight the point that although a divorce may be amicable, marriage is not easy the first or second time around. Having reasonable expectations of marriage and what life looks like after divorce is key. What I do know is divorce without going to court is the best alternative. This is what collaborative divorce is all about. This process is the best way to allow yourself to move on with your life when the divorce is behind you. Even after you broke up with them, your heart’s still on the shelf. It may be awhile but you’re still not quite yourself. You can’t be with someone new and you can’t go back to them. You’re beginning to realize that it’s sink or swim.
This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce! Please call my office to find out more about how to divorce with dignity
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