As usual, I have some song or another playing through my head like a jukebox. It often means there is a message my brain is sending me and this time was no different. Growing up with Simon and Garfunkel (and now dating myself), I was mesmerized by “The Sound of Silence” and how powerful the words were and still are. “People talking without speaking, people hearing without listening” – a very meaningful statement especially for couples dealing with and going through the divorce process. It speaks of an an aloneness that can be a common thread for these couples and the angst they are feeling.
Couples use the Collaborative Process for resolving their divorce know that when they talk everyone listens. For those who have a listening challenge, there is a mental health professional on the Collaborative team who helps with that issue. This is so important in the resolution of the issues at hand. Once the parties can listen to the other and hear what is being said, the peeling back of defenses can occur and true healing begins.
I found a great article about listening that goes to the core requirement for dispute resolution especially in the Collaborative Divorce process – effective communication.
Enjoy and let me know your thoughts. Make it a great day!!!